How do I feel about my two adult children being prescribed medicine from a phsychiatrist in the last few months? Well, mixed emotions I suppose (like most things in my life). After all, I am the one who suggested and advocated for the visit to the doctor. Did I suspect medicine was a possibility?… Well the answer is, not really!?! Not right away. Maybe get to know them and have an understanding of their lives before prescribing… but then I tell myself he’s a doctor – he looks at facts – he asked questions and he knows the proper answers. Well okay then, I understand. But it is still my children, it is still their brains and bodies that are being altered. But yes altered, altered because there is a possible chemical imbalance that is causing them to struggle, isn’t this what I wanted someone to help them with? Yes.
Do I fully understand medicine today and why it is so much more common than when my parents were children? No. Do i want to learn? Yes. Do I look at my extended family and see alcoholism and struggle? Yes. Do I want to find a way for my children to be successful and able to fulfill their own hopes and dreams? Yes. Is medicine the answer to helping them through a difficult time so they can achieve this? The answer here is… I have to put trust in their doctor and believe that they are well monitored. So yes. Yes it is the answer for them for now.
I have also struggled in my life. I ask myself the question “Am I trying to pave a smoother road for my kids than I have had?” Isn’t that what parents do? Is medication for them the correct answer for doing this? If I had been medicated for my anxiety would I have done all the soul searching that has led me to today? Does medication take away creativity and true personalities? Is this right for MY children??? I could ask 100’s and 100’s of questions and never have answers to them until it is tried for them as individuals. I have to continuously remind myself that they are being monitored by both me and their doctor through the beginning stages of beginning the medicine. This has been done thoughtfully and professionally.
Do I know whether or not medicine for me in the earlier years of my life would have helped me? No. Do I think I may have been a better student or a better friend had I been medicated to help my anxiety and focus? No, I don’t know the answers to these many questions that flow through my mind… all I know for today is I helped my children to seek help for the way they were feeling and this is where it has led us. Does there seem to be stigma attached to people on “meds”? Yes indeed there is. Should there be? No, there absolutely should not. Each person is traveling their own journey… We all gain help along the way in different kinds of ways. I am thankful that my children are on the path to self-understanding and learning about themselves and their bodies. The medication they are on will help to regulate some of the things that have been out of sync for them and should help to put them back in balance. Life is all about balance.